Me and my best friend are both 12. This year, I got moved up to dance in the teen routines for competition, but she didn’t. She will still be in the junior routines. I feel really bad, but I’m also excited to get the chance to dance in the teen groups. I don’t want her to be mad at me though. Should I tell my teacher I want to stay with the juniors for another year?
Congratulations on getting bumped up to the teen groups! That’s a huge compliment and you should be feeling very proud.
But we know it’s not that simple! And it’s awesome that you value your friendship so much that you’re willing to sacrifice your own opportunities for your best friend’s feelings. That being said, if you are really serious about your dance career, then you should pursue this opportunity. Your teacher moved you up a level for a reason. We’re guessing you show a lot of promise and are filled to the brim with potential! Performing and rehearsing with older, more experienced dancers will be invaluable to you and your dance dreams.
Your friend’s feelings are important, though. She’s probably feeling a little bummed out and maybe even a bit jealous. It will be sad not having as many classes and rehearsals together, but you can keep your friendship strong by still spending lots of time together outside the studio—and maybe you can even discuss having a duo with your teacher. (Talk about serious bonding time!) Plus, you each know that you’ll have your #1 fan in the audience every time you take the stage at competition—you’ll be screaming while she’s onstage with the juniors, and you can try to spot her face in the audience while you’re performing with the teens.
Don’t rub your “promotion” in your friend’s face, but don’t talk down to her either. Just try to take it all in stride and keep going about “business as usual.” If she wants to talk about it, be open to that. Meanwhile, try to soak in every moment of your new classes, and don’t be afraid to make new friends—so long as you always make time for your best friend!
Have a great comp season!