My teacher just selected our costume for one of our competition numbers and I hate it. And I don’t mean it’s ugly or boring. I mean I hate how I look and feel in it. It’s a crop top with a little skirt, and it does look really cute on a lot of the girls in the routine, but I’m a little bit bigger and more developed than they are, and I’m really uncomfortable. I don’t think I’ll be able to dance my best because I’m worried about popping out or not looking good. What should I do?
This is tough, especially since it sounds like the teacher has already selected and ordered the costumes. A few things to keep in mind, though…
- If your teacher picked these costumes, she probably took you into consideration, too. After all, she put you in the dance and you’ve obviously got the chops to be there. So while you may not look or feel your best in the clothes she chose, she probably thinks you can pull it off just fine.
- Can you get the costume altered at all? If it’s a bit too small in the chest, maybe a seamstress can add some extra fabric for additional coverage. Or if the skirt is just too short, see if yours can be made a bit longer. Small changes won’t look any different from the rest of the group, but they’ll make your costume look and fit better.
- Speak up. The best solution here is to talk to your teacher. Don’t say something during class and just be totally honest with her—like you just were with us! Tell her how you’re feeling and ask her what she recommends. She may not realize how you feel and who knows, she may go with a totally different look! Or she can reassure you that you look great (which we totally bet you do). The worst thing you can do is dance in silence and continue feeling self-conscious. Then, when you hit the stage, you won’t be able to dance your best.
- Remember that you’re your toughest critic. #truth